Type of Activity:  Diversity, Get to Know You, Perspective

Idea give by:  Rick Bosch

Source:  Playing With A Full Deck, by Michelle Cummings

Props Needed:  playing cards, one per participant

Group Size:  20 or more

Playing the Game:  This activity should be played simultaneously with a variation of Card Mixers (also listed in the Online Games Database).  Give each participant a card.  Ask them to find a partner with a card that has something in common with their card.  (this could be the suit, the  number, or the color).  You could have them discuss several things.  Here are a few suggestions:

Get to Know you Topics:

  • Find three things you have in common with your partner
  • Share a goal you have for the day
  • Share why you came to the program/workshop
  • Discuss your favorite foods
  • Describe the first car you ever owned

What makes the game of Rejection different from the activity Card Mixer is, as you hand out the cards, the participants that receive a red card are given normal instructions for the activity.  Participants that are given a black card are given the same instructions and also told they are not allowed to talk to anyone with a red card.

With large groups there are many options for everyone to mill around and find a partner to discuss the chosen topic.  At first those with red cards may be unaware that there are participants in the group that are not allowed to talk to them.  After 5 minutes, nonchalantly start exchanging red cards with black cards and give the new instructions to these participants.  As the milling about continues there will be visible moments of participants with black cards avoiding the participants with red cards.  Stop the activity after this is seen a few times and ask the group to get into a circle to debrief what happened.  Always inform the group of the two sets of rules that were being played so the participants with red cards understand that they were avoided on purpose.

Debriefing Topics:

  • How did this activity make you feel?
  • How did it feel to have a black card?  What were some of your strategies for encountering a participant with a red card?
  • If you had a red card, describe an interaction you attempted to have with a black card.
  • How is this activity like society?


Learning styles utilized from the 7 Kinds of Smart:   ~logic smart, people smart, picture smart, body smart, self smart

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